What Is Mediation?

Unlike court, mediation is confidential

Mediation costs a fraction of what it takes to hire two lawyers and go to court

Mediation allows you to make decisions that affect you and your family. In court, the judge makes all the decisions

Mediation is a process that allows parties to create their own creative solutions to the dispute

Mediation is facilitated by a trained, neutral third party

Mediation is applicable to any dispute or situation where court may not be the best option

Unlike court, mediation can be done in the comfort of your own home by utilizing virtual meetings (Zoom).

The goal of resolving conflict is not victory.

It’s reaching an understanding and letting go of our need to be right.

What Makes This Process Different from Divorce Attorneys

Focus on collaboration and mutual agreement, rather than adversarial positions.

Attention to emotional and practical details, not just legal issues.

Flexibility to discuss and resolve issues not typically addressed by attorneys, such as parenting time during holidays, religious upbringing, and introducing new partners.

A personalized and private process, not dictated by court schedules and procedures.

Emphasis on long-term, sustainable agreements, rather than short-term wins.

Divorce Mediation Process

Step 1: Initial Contact &  Consultation (free)

  • One or both spouses contact the mediator.

  • I will gather basic information about the marriage, assets, children, and goals.

  • We will discuss the mediation process, costs, and any other concerns you may have.

Step 2: Agreement to Mediate

  • Both parties sign an agreement to participate in mediation voluntarily.

  • This agreement outlines confidentiality, fees, and the mediator’s role.

Step 3: Preparation

  • Each spouse may gather financial documents, parenting plans, and other relevant materials.

Step 4: Mediation Sessions Begin

  • Sessions are typically 1–2 hours long and may occur over several weeks.

  • The mediator facilitates discussion on:

    • Filing for divorce

    • Division of assets and debts

    • Parenting plan (if there are minor-age children)

    • Spousal support (alimony)

    • Child support

    • Many other important topics

  • The mediator helps identify common ground and encourages compromise.

Step 5: Drafting Agreements

  • Once agreements are reached, the mediator drafts a Marital Settlement Agreement (MSA) / Memorandum of Understanding (MOU).

  • This document includes all terms agreed upon during mediation.

Step 6: Filing with the Court

  • The signed agreement is submitted to the court along with other required divorce paperwork.

Step 7: Finalization

  • Once the court signs off, the divorce is finalized.

  • No court appearance is usually necessary if everything is resolved through mediation.